Sunday, October 17, 2010

How would you like your change? Slow and steady, please.

Doesn't fall seem like a good time of year for change? It's my favorite season and it seems way better than New Year's. I mean, everything is dormant and cold. Okay, spring is the obvious choice for change, I know. But fall is just as good, I swear.

Then again, when change hits and it's unexpected, it is hard to process no matter the time of year. Of course, I'm talking about change affecting us, rather than the reverse of us affecting change.  It's much better when we can choose the change, right? Don't worry though folks, I'm not going to wax philosophic today. I know no one wants to read the chicken/egg loop for an entire post. I'm just saying I prefer my change slow and steady instead of a "surprise!" moment.  Planned change, yeah, that's the ticket.

In the last couple months there have been some major changes in my life, or rather, there will be. One, I just started grad school, and boy is it a lot more work than I planned on. Two, my mom (who has for the last eight years been living in Alaksa - sorry peeps, but that place is another world and I don't mean that in the magical has fairies and cool stuff way.... okay to vacation it's pretty cool, but you couldn't pay me enough to live there... oh yeah back to change) is moving to Portland.  Whoo hoo!  I mean, seriously.  Before she moved to Alaska, I moved to Los Angeles (another armpit of the west coast, but I won't go into that now) so we've lived apart for the last decade. It's hard to believe it's been that long.  But my mom, sister and I have always been close and we're all looking forward to having her close.

See, those changes don't seem too bad. Learn time management, enjoy mom being back. Good.

But. There are two changes in my writing life that I have to say make me a little bummed. Two of the wonderful ladies from my critique group Young Adult Fiction Fanatics are movin' on. Change comes for everyone in different ways, and sometimes we have to move things around to make them work in our lives. While I know, or at least truly hope, we'll all be able to keep in contact, I want to take the opportunity to thank them both for the fantastic contributions they've brought to the group.

Both of them are fabulous writers and I'm sure someday we'll see them on the shelves.

Cam - you introduced me to the "Show-me" police, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your insight, spirit, and humor infused comments have brightened my writing in ways I cannot even describe. I will miss you on the boards, but fear not, I'll be stalking your blog. And anyone who wants join me can do so here.

Clara - I can't tell you how much I've enjoyed reading your MS. On the boards, you've been a true cheerleader for us all, and your constant positive attitude is truly appreciated and will be missed. I'll see you on FB and I'll also be stalking you on your blog. And anyone who wants to join me can do so here.

I just want to give a big THANK YOU to you both for bringing such positive elements to both my writing and my life.

So even though I prefer my change slow and steady, sometimes it gives you just the opportunity you need to reflect and remember the good things that can come of it.


  1. Are you trying to make me CRY????? I'm not wearing waterproof mascara this morning! :)

    In all seriousness, I've loved reading your writing and have no doubt you'll find yourself a rockstar agent one day to champion your novels. And then I can say, "Remember when..."

    Until that day, you know where to find me.


  2. Oh, Min, you've made me all teary. Thank you so much for this. I am heartbroken about my decision to leave the group but ultimately it was something I had to do. Thank you so much for understanding.

    Your critiques have helped me so much and I've taken a lot of your advice. I loved chatting with you on the board! Every time I look at my website background I think of you, because you saved me from death by pixelization.

    Best of luck with your writing! I'll be following your blog, keeping in touch via email and Facebook, and I'll be your biggest fan when you are published!

  3. Min,
    I know, it's totally sad that we have people leaving (sigh). It's like a part of our family...because to me, that's what our group is.

    We've all got similar goals in mind and of course, the understanding of what it takes to be a writer.

    Change sucks (well most of the time). But there are times when it's needed, like your Mom's move. Now she'll be closer and you can see her more often and hang out.

    Sometime soon I'd like to make a change in regards to my job. I think it'll be scary, but I know I'm ready.

    Oh, and before I end my comment I wanted to say that I loved the leaves...

  4. Beautiful post. The girls will definitely be missed. I'm going to go grab a tissue now...

    So glad you're mom will be close again and I agree with Rebekah, sometimes change is necessary--it's how we grow. (And I also loved the photo, absolutely gorgeous).

  5. I'm sad to see them go too Min. Seems like I barely got a chance to know them, but am thankful I can follow along on their journeys through facebook and their homes on the web.

    Your post is beautiful. Glad to see your mom will be closer to you. Always nice when families get along, seems so rare these days. I have that closeness with my family too. It's the only reason I've remained where I am for so long.

    Looking forward to seeing where all this change takes you. It usually seems to inspire me, do you find that true as well?